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jewishsightseeing.com, January 19, 2006 |
All women in Israel have the same second-class status—at least
so far as that country's unfair marriage laws are concerned. If you don't
believe it, watch the documentary, Sentenced to Marriage, which will be
shown at 10 a.m., Friday, February 10th, at the David & Dorothea Garfield
Theatre at the Lawrence Family JCC as part of the 16th annual Jewish Film
Festival. But civil court and religious court are two different systems—and matters of divorce are exclusively under the jurisdiction of the religious courts. Although Tamara, the wife seeks a divorce; her husband refuses to give it to her. In a tape recorded conversation, he taunts her: "I am a man; I can be 70, and marry a woman of 30, but you can't, there will be no one." With the help of a women's advocacy group, Tamara asks a rabbinical court to force her husband to give her a divorce. The court however sides with the husband's demand for a payment of $6,000 U.S. dollars, money Tamara does not have. But what about those times he forced his wife to have sex? "He just wanted to have his way with you, that's all," responds the rabbinic judge in a tape recorded session. "He exploited your naivete, that's all." What about the knife? The judge said the weapon was just a prop "to exploit the lady's innocence." Is this justice? If it's a divorce Tamara wants, not only must she meet her husband's demand of a payment of 6,000 American dollars, she must also remove her two children from a pre-school and put them into an ultra-Orthodox school. Is Tamara's case an exception? Is this simply a one-sided
presentation by film-makers who at the start declare their purpose is
"breaking the code of silence"? The documentary directed by Anat
Zuria also follows the efforts of Michelle and Rachel to obtain
divorces. That's when Rachel has a melt-down. She screams, cries: "Let them kill me, I don't want to live like this; He's with other women... I don't believe this religion anymore... I want to be free. Does anyone care? I've been silent four and a half years!" She is so loud, people come up from the basement of the religious courts building to see what the fuss was about. Apparently, someone in the court cares—or simply is embarrassed— because her divorce is granted—a forced divorce, over the husband's objections. For Rachel and her friends it is at long last a time for celebration, a time of greater happiness than even her original wedding had been. How pathetic that a system can be so rigged against women that they are are forced to feel this way. How is it possible that a man can commit adultery, abandon his
wife, beat his children, and still the wife is held hostage to such a
marriage? Is Israel indeed, as one woman observes so bitterly, "still
a third-world country"? This documentary raises very serious
questions which demand answers. It is a cry for reform! A cry for a
civil marriage procedure. A cry against tyranny. |